The Underestimated Power of Kindness

It was a bright Saturday morning in the late fall. I had stopped at a cafe' to enjoy a cup of coffee and scan the morning newspaper. Suddenly, I felt a hand on the back of my jacket and heard someone say, "Hey Steve! How ya doin'?"

Looking up, I saw a boy wearing a mechanic's uniform worn by employees of the gasoline station next to the cafe'. He looked familiar, but, at first, I was unable to recall where we had met.

He also held a cup of coffee, so I asked him to join me. Very soon, his story--and probably my coffee--began to thaw out my memory.

Five years earlier, he had been traveling home late on a February night. He still had several of his friends with him. A ferocious blizzard had arrived that afternoon, and by midnight, the snowdrifts were getting deep. He recalled hitting a drift just down the road from my house.

He had walked to my house for help. I had taken my pickup and a towing rope and pulled him out of the snowdrift and up to the highway where maintenance trucks had cleaned away the snow.

This has been a common occurrence here during the winter. I cannot count the times someone has also pulled my car from a snowdrift.

However, it was an unforgettable experience for him. He was only eighteen at the time, and he described how frightened he had been. One would not want to be stuck all night in a storm like that one. Within a couple hours, my pickup would not have made it to the highway.

As it turned out, his memory and account of that snowy night was a very unexpected--and much appreciated--kindness toward me. I thanked him sincerely for stopping to chat during his break.

His memory of our unexpected meeting in a snowstorm brightened my entire day. Since then, we have had several chats over a Saturday morning cup of coffee.

Leo Buscaglia wrote, "Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."

Such simple actions can indeed have an underestimated power. Many people desperately need kind words, smiles, and listening ears. They need ears that will hear without judging and respond without possessing.

One simple kindness at the right moment can change the direction of a life and shine a light of hope when all light seems to have gone out. Sometimes it has the power to save a life.

Here is a great quote that I keep in my e-journal. It was written by William Penn...

"I expect to pass through life but once. If therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again."

Make today a memorable day by sharing a smile or kind word with at least one other person. It is difficult to estimate the tremendous power and value that the simplest acts of kindness bring. However, they do not stop where they begin. Their underestimated power will continue to bring you a life of joy and memorable experiences.

© Copyright 2005 by Steve Brunkhorst. Steve is a professional life success coach, motivational author, and the editor of Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets of Inspiration, a popular mini-zine bringing great stories, motivational nuggets, and inspiring thoughts to help you achieve more in your career and personal life. Get the next issue by visiting http://www.AchieveEzine.com

In The News:


Olympics-Happiness for Bhutan Olympians is not golden
Reuters
Neither Sherab nor Kunzang expect to win medals for Bhutan, an impoverished, largely Buddhist country between India and China which only opened up to foreigners in 1974, banned television until 1999, and uses happiness to measure its success.

and more »

How to Be Happier at Work: 3 Tips
TIME
Tan used his 20% time, working with experts, to create a course called “Search Inside Yourself,” designed to help Googlers improve their emotional intelligence and mindfulness, making them happier and more productive employees, and better bosses.
Increased Productivity Through MindfulnessSeattle Post Intelligencer (blog)
How to be happier at work: Three tipsDynamic Business

all 3 news articles »

Travel: Happiness is a humidity-free seaside town, plus top 10 states where ...
San Jose Mercury News
How else would you explain Kiawah Island, SC, and Naples, Fla., beating the sublime Sausalito and Tiburon in the publication's first-ever list of the 15 Happiest Seaside Towns? (Coastal Living is based in Birmingham, Ala., so there's that.) ...

and more »

Modern Happiness: Springsteen and the American Dream
Huffington Post (blog)
I think happiness is an idea that's kind of overblown in our society, and incredibly muddled down by different shit that tries to appeal to happiness or make you happy, but really only one person knows what happiness is, and that person is everybody.


The Guardian (blog)

The New Economics of Happiness
The Atlantic
But do they know how to measure happiness? If they did, what would we even do with the results? Each year, the OECD produces the Better Life Index, a comprehensive report on the well-being of advanced countries based on a long list of factors, ...
Happiness is - being a woman!Indian Express
The Happiest Countries in the World24/7 Wall St.
Better life: relaunching the happiness indexThe Guardian (blog)
Moneynews -MercatorNet (blog)
all 1,129 news articles »

ADDING MULTIMEDIA Money Can Buy Happiness After All ... Sort Of
MarketWatch (press release)
ATLANTA, May 24, 2012 (BUSINESS WIRE) -- They say money can't buy happiness, but $5 will get you pretty close today. After welcoming its 5 millionth guest earlier this year, the World of Coca-Cola, also known as the home of happiness, is celebrating ...

and more »

AARP News (blog)

Happiness: Reversing the Formula
Huffington Post
We grow up being taught to believe external things will bring happiness. Many of us learn to equate our own happiness with the level of success we achieve and the external things that come with the achievement. If we meet the right person, ...
What's Your Happiness Formula?AARP News (blog)

all 2 news articles »

Sowetan

'Happiness' is key Semenya ingredient
Sowetan
FOR Dorcas Semenya, world athletics champion Caster Semenya's mother, the most important lesson to teach one's children is to always be happy. PROUD: Doris Semenya has instilled joy in her children. "I am a person filled with joy.

and more »

IBTimes.co.uk

Can Happiness Research Invent a Better Economics?
The Atlantic
But do they know how to measure happiness? If they did, what would we even do with the results? Each year, the OECD produces the Better Life Index, a comprehensive report on the well-being of advanced countries based on a long list of factors, ...
Top Ten Happiest Countries in the World in 2012 [SLIDESHOW]IBTimes.co.uk

all 38 news articles »

WBEZ (blog)

Are the Chinese happier than they were 20 years ago?
WBEZ (blog)
After two decades of rapid economic growth, people in China aren't necessarily happier than they were 20 years ago. At least that's what a recent economic study found. Better economic conditions haven't really affected middle-income earners and the ...

and more »
Google News

Red Balloon of Happiness

Just when you think you know it all, some 17-month... Read More

Why Choosing To Be Happy Is Not Enough

I talked in a recent article about how every moment... Read More

Gratitude For Dummies

Yes, it might feel great to win the lottery. Money,... Read More

What NOT To Do To Feel Good About Yourself - 10 Tips

From the moment we wake in the morning our heads... Read More

How A Psychovirus May Be Destroying Your Life

A pervasive sense of low self-esteem, a feeling of unworthiness,... Read More

How To Be Outrageously Happy

You can be as happy as you want whenever you... Read More

Happiness and Keeping Ahead of the Joneses

Imagine that the Internal Revenue Service in your country claimed... Read More

10 Ways to Bring Meaning to Your Life

My life always appears to be so hectic. It's as... Read More

A Great Life? How to Score Your Life

Is your life really the life you want?Quickly determine how... Read More

Inner Peace

Are you content and at inner peace?Or are you insecure... Read More

King Solomons Mind

"Don't you understand, everything in this life is meaningless," cautioned... Read More

Great Relationship Problem Solving Technique

This is one of my all time favourite problem solving... Read More

Have You Ever Tasted The Fruit Of Pure Happiness?

Have you ever been really happy? Have you ever tasted... Read More

Happiness-Marriage-Love-Divorce-Suicide-Peace Within-college

Too many of us seem to think that there should... Read More

Where do we Find True and Lasting Happiness?

For the longest time I was convinced that I was... Read More

Seven Steps to a Better Day

Are you tired of the same routine day after day?... Read More

Love is All You Need

Boiled down to all of our essence, all we really... Read More

Conditions of Happiness: Happy vs. Unhappy - Do We Have A Choice?

Everyone is in the process of seeking greater happiness. We... Read More

Colors: How Do They Make You Feel?

One of the most important colors in advertising is the... Read More

Principles of Human Misery / Happiness

Sometimes we are so occupied with our daily routine in... Read More

The Personal Cost of Shyness

Has someone nearby been sending you emails rather than calling... Read More

Live Happily Ever After!

So many people overwork themselves literary in the quest for... Read More

10 Ideas to Jump Start Your Self-Confidence

To begin feeling that first spark of self-confidence within you,... Read More

How To Experience A Richer, Deeper, And Fuller Life

When we choose to move beyond the boundaries of the... Read More

Health and Happiness - Self Test

First of all, examine yourself outwardly.Look at your fingernails. Are... Read More